Learning to Use Regret: Studies in the Negative Emotions and How to Use Them

Researchers at Kellogg examine the so called negative emotions: anger, anxiety, boredom, disappointment, fear, guilt, jealousy, and sadness. They wanted to find out whether people believed the negative emotions were beneficial, damaging, or somewhere in between. The team found that regret, like several other negative emotions, was viewed both favorably and unfavorably. People rated regret more favorably than unfavorably. Only jealousy was considered unambiguously negative. Their work shows that regret is a powerful force in human life. Far from being negative, regret is actually recognized by human brains as a positive influence on future behavior. Regret’s important messages can be applied in everything from marketing to decision-making for the future. The respondents stated that regret helped them make future decisions more than other negative emotions. Regret scored the highest of all negative emotions in the five functions of emotion—to help in making sense of the world, avoid future behaviors, gain insight, achieve social harmony, and improve approach. The team examined eleven other studies regarding regret, in which people ranked the parts of life they regret the most. Education was the biggest inducer of regret, followed by career, romance, parenting, the self, and leisure. The rankings turned out to be remarkably consistent across studies of people in different age groups and locations…


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How to Survive in an Unhappy Workplace

When you don't like your job, going to work every day can be a challenge. Your problem might be with a bad manager, that you constantly feel stretched to the breaking point, or that you are resentful about taking a pay cut. Or, the whole environment may just feel toxic. You might need to stay in your job because it provides health benefits, or maybe you're only staying while you look for another position. Whatever your reasons for being unhappy, you need to maintain your professionalism and prevent a bad attitude from sabotaging you. The principles you need to remember: 1. Differentiate between what you can change and what you can't. 2. Take responsibility for making a change. 3. Focus on making the best of a bad situation. 4. Don’t assume nothing will ever change. 2. Don’t allow negative thoughts to rule you. 3. Don’t go it alone…


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Why We Don’t Always Choose Our Favorite Option

If you are like many people, you enjoy chocolate and eat it frequently. That’s okay, you might think. After all, chocolate has antioxidants and it boosts your mood. Although this may be true, it is not the real reason why you eat chocolate: it is just a line of reasoning you follow to feel less guilty about eating something high in fat and sugar. People often rationalize in this way, telling themselves stories of sometimes dubious merit to justify their behavior. A research at Northwest University shows how rationalization—once studied mainly in psychology—impacts choices and can help economists understand why people make decisions that violate standard economic theories…


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How to Get Along With Frenemies

Here are what you should do: 1) stick to the facts; 2) don't take it personally; 3) talk it out; 4) if you can't talk it out, work it out; 5) while you are working it out, spread it out; 6) if all else fail, relax; 7) rinse and repeat…


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An Exercise in Changing Yourself

Even though we feel that we need to change our own behavior times and again, we quickly either push it on the side or forget it all together - after all we are busy all the time. An exercise introduced by a psychologist is simple and proved to be effective…

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